[S11E11] Everything Is Personal Fix
[S11E11] Everything Is Personal
But that's not Connie or Kelly, with their need for the truth and to expose any potential evils within the foundations of the Commonwealth a priority over their personal comfort. Add into that mix an editor looking to shut them down, an adversarial past with Gov. Milton (Laila Robins), ominous warnings from Mercer (Michael James Shaw) when they start asking questions (especially after they learn who Mercer's sister is), Mercer beginning to question his orders, and cloak-n-dagger moments like lists of names being slid under doors anonymously, and we have the makings of a storyline that viewers probably shouldn't be sleeping on. Especially as we move closer to the series finale and better understanding of how everything connects. Confession? That list that Connie & Kelly received vibed CRM to us for some reason, like maybe those folks are research facility-bound?
Yet as he explains to Carol the differences between those who are mercenaries just looking to personally gain from a situation to those who are true believers, we begin to see Lance in a much more gray area because he comes across in every way, shape, and form as a true believer in what the Commonwealth is and what it could become. But does he see the Miltons feeling that way, or does he see them more in the "mercenaries" camp? That still wasn't too clear. What was clear is that Lance is looking to get Carol to trust him, and opening up to her the way he did and then basing his arrest of the opium manufacturer on her assessment went a long way to establishing that trust. Why? Because as much as our survivors have depended on Carol as a badass killing machine, Lance is respecting her mind and ability to see "bigger pictures." In a number of ways in this episode, they're not much different from one another & Carol's inability to get a feel for Lance's agenda makes this relationship an interesting one to keep an eye on.
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Axe not like my like super serious that left for the UK like i. told him I think on our third day and he was definitely like would I I told him he was like a little taken back like you talking about me on this. Aston I'm like, oh no, that's not what it's about, and then he's like wait why are you talking about this past? We had built like Sacha report by that we were already like super into each other. So I think hearing that like when you can like share it I not through tax like you can just share it in person you already know this person's a genuine person. I think that also changes the context a bit yeah I don't think he ever listened either. It's a little awkward. Other acts is like all about it he's like talk bobby whatever. Be. So, yeah. It really just depends on your personality, but we also had like way more history and we dated even before I started this thing. So away, it's just hard to sometimes put it into context with New People. Yeah. Absolutely. But you also it's such a big part of what you do is you don't want to hide it no, and if someone googles, you can easily find it. Yeah. It's a tough one. That's why you gotTa Change Your name on these dating APPs. I told you you got to change it but what am I gonNa do go on a date like for like three dates and then be like, oh, by the way my name is Julie. I was lying to you the whole time. Yes. Therapists. Field the same like I'm sure like there's other occupations that are super intimidating people. It's not just this right right that's true. Yeah. We just have to find a happy medium I. Think your role is right that may be at you don't update in real time and they are not as specific but you can talk more high level. Yeah I. Mean I think thing another thing that's going to get into the. Episode. Today. On our first date I think the reason I walked away. So like Luke. Warm is because we talked about politics the whole time and I think it's hard when it's so fresh right now and F I. I wanted to go out and vote before we go into it that is our huge takeaway here but I think we talked about it. So long we actually had similar view so it wasn't like A. Butting heads situation but I walked away being like that a good conversation I'm glad I heard where he's coming from but I have literally had that convoy with you you. You know like there wasn't anything about him that I learned the I didn't really learn like what made him tick like what he who he was as a person like it was kind of like it was very interchangeable I think will go into this episode like I think politics. Are. Really good to gauge someone's values, but it might not like it might not be something that warrants at the entire conversation. Then you're losing out on them as a person it's such a hot topic right now especially, this week this week is going to be more how can you not talk about politics on a date right and the next week? I. Mean it's just GonNa be hot topic for so long but we made it the only topic. To say. Yes we did. We did. We did this experiment we were asking for people to be set up on a date with someone who may have opposite political beliefs and we found two people who are willing to do so and we got them on a date but the first half of the day they could not talk about politics. So that's the difference. Right because like if I was on this date with this guy, we only met for like two at hour and a half. Two hours where they like basically spent in our I. think it was like an hour and a half without any politics talk we actually gave them the thirty six questions to finding love to like kinda guide it into a deeper way, and we also set them up on a cooking challenge. So as a virtual day, but we made it a little more entertaining interesting in. Yeah. It was politics was not on the table at all the first half and then the second half. It was. Open the flood gates. Let's talk about interesting about this too is we didn't actually have two people that were super extreme like there was one that I mean, the two people we had Kiki and Tom, they were both wore like independent. That's how they considered themselves. Kiki definitely leaned towards Democrats. She said she's only voted for Democrats in the past she was voting for Joe Biden. There is no question. About that, she's a black woman to she felt very like things were personal with trump's so she's very against trump and then tom on the other hand is more conservative. He's still like he's not. He doesn't identify as full right but he's more. He's still more conservative. He used in a very conservative upbringing in calls a cult. 041b061a72